Tuesday, January 25, 2011

a reminder about self-reliance

i'll admit it. i went across the street at lunch time and got chinese food today. when i ate the cookie, this piece of paper popped out:

call me crazy, but i think this is a 'fortune' that we all need to be reminded of once in a blue moon.

losing ourselves translates into relying on others for happiness. which translates -- ultimately -- into being just the opposite... unhappy.

in my opinion, there are two broad categories in life to blame for this particular phenomenon.

1. social networking/media.
it's so easy to get caught up in the hubub of reading your favorite blogs (like this one, right?), stalking your friends (or random strangers) on facebook, reading what people are doing at this exact moment with twitter, and/or walking around with your nose stuck in the latest issue of glamour/vogue/nylon... and of course, i enjoy all of these things just as much as the next person.

however - sometimes i feel like it's important to take a step back from all of these things, stop trying to keep up with the joneses (or, should i say, kardashians), and remember what makes you, YOU. what do you actually like to read? what do you actually like to watch on TV? what beauty products REALLY work the best for you?

if we lose ourselves to social networking and social media, i think the truth gets a bit lost in the clutter sometimes. and when i'm REALLY honest with myself, i realize that sometimes the 'norm' or 'best' book/tv show/beauty product isn't my favorite. sometimes, i don't even like it, at all. because of this, i think it's very important to take time for myself and re-evaluate periodically. 

2. relationships/social events.
i have a friend who is always busy. she has tons of friends who adore her, a boyfriend who is always whisking her away on dates and to sporting events... and while i know she loves being on-the-go and having the opportunity to attend all of these events, i know that sometimes she is flat-out exhausted. she craves 'me time.' and i couldn't agree with her more.
while my life is currently not as event-filled and fast paced as hers, i still get overwhelmed sometimes about my lack of time to relax... my lack of 'me time.'

that's why i think it's imperative that we all make a conscious effort not to lose ourselves in a relationship of any kind, be it a romantic relationship, a friendship, or a relationship with work. because when you start giving all of your time and energy to one thing, the rest of you just... disappears. ceases to exist. and that's when you stop being a well-rounded person, with something to offer in all settings. that's when you get... dare i say it... BORING. 

my friend, in my opinion, is an EXCELLENT time manager. she is someone that i look up to, especially (but not only) in this area of life.

thus, due in part to the different points layed out above, i think it is of the utmost importance to stay true to ourselves and to actually take the time once in a while to REALLY listen to what we are subconsciously telling ourselves. 

this way, we will be able to generate our own happiness, and, ultimately, spread and share that happiness with others.    


Jenny said...

Thank you. I love you.

The McCumsey Family said...

I needed that!

Marissa said...

I couldn't agree more! We so often depend on other people to fulfill a need of ours instead of finding a way to do it ourselves. Social media has swept the nation in so many forms, and it's negatively affected people of all ages. Younger kids are obsessed with all the aspects of other kids lives and look through pictures/posts and find themselves wanting something someone else has instead of being content with the life they're blessed with. It's sad!

Thanks for the reminder :)


Zsara said...

this was such a great post! i couldn't agree more - espec about social networking; sometimes i wish i were a bit older and belonged to that age when you used to talk on the phone rather than text and IM all the time so people would still attempt to contact me if i deleted my facebook. we've lost the art of letter writing too! and just generally not being involved in the lives of people who we knew once upon a time. xox

Meagan Shack said...

I needed to hear/read all of that. Have I told you lately how much I love your blog? And you? If not then I meant to.

Alycia (thecuriouspug.com) said...

lovely blog you have over here! thank you for your comment on mine :) and i totally agree with #1. sometimes i need to just back away from the computer and tune into real life lol